This past weekend I relented to Joy's requests to leave Orlando again (after being here just two days) and headed down to Fort Myers after mere three hours after getting off from work. I left even though I badly needed sleep, and I left quickly so I could just drive home and crawl into bed...
This past weekend was a nightmare. Sure we got things taken care of for the wedding etc., but things just got crazy during and after that. I think that most of it has to do with me sleeping through a phone call (that I answered while sleeping, I gather) and then missing a dinner with Joy's parents that I didn't exactly know about.
Things are still crazy even now. Joy is upset because anti-David propagandists speak negatively of me. She listens to it all and then brings it all to me. This whole thing would be easier if people could speak negatively about me to me, but that is unlikely.
Clearly, I am betraying a blogdom rule and writing about interpersonal struggles online -- even if it is very vaguely. So, I'll go ahead and stop. Just know that I am worn out from crap slinging in my direction and many, many other things.
Posted by David at January 26, 2005 09:38 PMSince when is there a rule about keeping your online journal both impersonal and politically correct?
Posted by: Luke at January 29, 2005 05:26 PMThey wouldn't speak negatively of you to you if they are trying to persuade Joy not to marry you. But let's say that they did speak negatively towards you instead of Joy, would you change the things that concern them for the sake of your future marriage?
JB
Posted by: Jessica at January 31, 2005 04:42 AMLuke: There isn't really a rule, and if there was it wouldn't be much of a rule, because there is no enforcement of it. It is just a convention of sorts, and I know that Joy and some of my older brothers don't like too much detail written about them.
Jessica: You're right, if they are just trying to persuade Joy they wouldn't come to me.
First, if they did come to me I would have more respect for them as people. Right now I do not respect them in my mind, though I do try to show them respect.
Secondly, some of their concerns are somewhat valid. I wouldn't necessarily change the things about myself for them, but I might for myself if they adequately sold me on their ideas. One example of this is their complaint that I am not on time to everything. Though, this doesn't bother me, I do recognize that life would be better for me if I arrived to things on time more often.
Finally, some of the things that they said to Joy were not really problems so much as negative predictions about me. Unless they are privy to the events of the future (which they did not claim) I don't see how these predictions are at all constructive. They could be completely wrong about the future, and if Joy were to base her decisions on their bleak outlooks than it could be a loss for us. The best part about the predictions though is the fact that you can only prove them right or wrong if you act contrary to their advice.